Throughout development, your child must accomplish several tasks; some are easily achievable and others require more effort. Some children will need a bigger hand.
In any case, all children need to be encouraged and valued, whether they show or not any signs of discouragement.
First, you have to be on the lookout for every opportunity where it is possible to encourage your child, be it for the accomplishment of a task, the efforts given at an event, or a good attitude. Acknowledge his efforts even if they are not accompanied by immediate success.
7 TIPS TO VALUE
USE NON VERBAL
A pat on the shoulder or on the back, a simple smile or a thoughtful look; these small gestures can make all the difference in your child’s life.
Congratulate your child for his accomplishments. Vary your words of congratulations other than: “I congratulate you!”, “Great!” and “Good job!”.
DISPLAY HIS ACHIEVEMENTS
Display your child’s achivements, in full view of their eyes as well as those of family and visitors. This will show him that you are proud of his work and want to share it with everyone.
At the end of the day, schedule a time for a chat, looking back on the course of the day. Ask him to identify a moment in which he was especially proud.
Avoid at all cost comparisons between your children and others. Instead, compare them to themselves and their own progress. Let them see they can do things now that they had difficulty doing a few months ago.
Give responsibilities to your child; small, simple tasks to perform. Your child will be happy to see that he has helped someone, and this is always rewarding!
When your child experiences difficulties while performing a task or activity, make the situation positive, adjust the degree of difficulty, and collaborate with your child.